I’m sure most of you saw me posting on my social media that I was going to write up an article about being a feminine gay man in the world of professional wrestling… I did. On GOODNIGHT JOURNAL. But they DELETED my account and BANNED my e-mail from being used on their site. So I have shared the article with RISE, where I’m sure my article will get more traction anyway… so here goes.
HI! My name is Bryce J. Boyer and I am the 21 year openly gay and feminine professional know under the in-ring alias “The Punk Rock Kween” Jamie Senegal. My journey in professional wrestling began in January 2015. But this article isn’t a run down of me or who I am. I am writing this article to enlighten people on the reality of being a feminine gay male in pro wrestling.
I am going to start off with the negatives and then the positives so we end on a good note!”
I have ALWAYS unapologetically been MYSELF. No questions asked. I was in high school wearing fishnets on my arms, hair extensions, and makeup! It’s just who I was and who I am. Therefore when I started training to wrestle I didn’t think it would shake so many people… being Professional Wrestling is a world of extremities.
When I entered I had a very boyish appearance but I just didn’t feel happy or alright with myself because I knew it wasn’t who I was meant to be. But people were taking me under their wing like I was their son. Once I started finding myself and wearing makeup, fishnets, and etc (just like i did outside of the ring), I felt as though everyone kind of thought I was going “out of control.”
As silly as that sounds, when I was starting to find myself more, I was introduced to the likes of Rick Cataldo, Eddy McQueen, and Sonny Kiss (who is the first of us to really get the success she deserves; rightfully so.) who were so THEM. It was beautiful. I didn’t feel alone, because trust me (even though nobody was treating me poorly) I felt alone.
I didn’t have sisters. It was so refreshing to meet people just like me. Now there is so many of us… adding Saint Synclair, Ashton Starr, Billy Dixon, and sooooo many more of us to the world. We all have something so unique to offer to everyone. We are all talented in our own ways. Yet, so many shows don’t want more than one of us… or ANY of us at all. We are SO over-looked and under-utilized. We work JUST as hard as everyone else.
In 2016, I was in a best friend trio with a beautiful girl who was getting booked because of her looks, and a straight, athletic through the roof guy who was getting pushed because, well, duh. I felt so left behind. I was alone. I felt worthless and like I had nothing to offer because I literally couldn’t get booked.
We also fall prey to media… If a “straight- looking” man in wrestling comes out as gay he is dubbed as a “trail blazer” and gets 450,000 bookings and is pushed through the roof and admired for his strength. While we are all sitting in the back being dubbed as a “cliché” or a “stereotype”.
That is so frustrating because alongside my sisters we have gone through so much in our lives… hate, disrespect, judgment, and being over-looked. It makes us feel like our part of the war just doesn’t matter. Like, the fight we are putting in is unseen and unimportant. Rather than taking a picture with two of us, why not take a picture with ALL of us. We are a family, MASC & FEM LGBTQ wrestlers. But people tend to pick the ones with the most attention, when we are all putting in the for the fight. People think we are just taking the “easy way out” and instead of having to put in “work” we are using our “LOOKS to get OVER!”
Uhm…. we are CHARACTERS. This is a SHOW. We are STORY TELLERS. Not EVERYONE is going to be a SERIOUS, NITTY GRITTY wrestler.
But that is enough of the bad… let’s talk about the GOOD.
We as FEM LGBTQ wrestlers have the POWER. We are changing the game. I don’t know if people truly realize how many feminine gay wrestling fans there are who just want to wrestle so they can give to fans now what the Divas and Knockouts gave us. We as feminine gay wrestlers are paving the way and fighting so MORE and MORE LGBTQ community members can join this business and chase their dreams.
The MOST important thing of all is that we can all ENLIGHTEN. People judge books by their covers. No question. So when a judgmental person sees one of do a really good job at what we do, that changes their opinion on not only OUR work but on the LGBTQ community! As public figures, we bring to light the importance of loving EACH OTHER and OUR PLANET. We are truly gifted and it is a blessing to be a feminine gay in professional wrestling.
Do we fight for an easier day? ABSOLUTELY, YES. But myself and all of my sisters love our lives and we are proud to fight and make a difference.
Thank you for letting us live our lives.